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STEPS TO ACHIEVING YOUR DREAM

Having a Dream . . . a Passion . . . a Vision . . . is like having a reason for living a reason for being. Our dreams provide a strong sense of purpose and the motivation to great each new day with enthusiasm. The dreams we truly desire for ourselves are how we create life. The time arrives in all lives to create a new potential. We may ignore the signs, but they are there. They can be felt inside when the body constantly tells us we’re not happy, we don’t feel good, we don’t have enough love or spirit flowing through us. The life currently being led, the available levels of joy and abundance, were created from one set of beliefs, thoughts and strategies. We’ve outgrown an old way of being. Another potential reality can be created if we are ready to cultivate new beliefs, thoughts and strategies. To do so requires willingness to take ourselves on an adventure into the unknown.

Can the secrets of achieving dreams be broken down into a series of steps? Well, it isn’t always as simple and neat as a set of defined steps, but there is a general process for success:

DREAM FROM THE HEART.

The imagination is the place from which we begin. From imagination born within the core, we are the catalysts of possibility. The life we wish to live can only be imagined by self, can only be created by self. It is inspired by the passions, desires, feelings and intuitions existing within. The body is the guide leading us into alignment with living a potential higher then the one currently being lived. We dare to believe a better life exists outside the beliefs which form our comfort circle. We dare curiosity, adventure and the risk of finding out if angry lions, tiger and bears really do or do not live outside the boundaries of the comfort circle.

Every human being has the ability to paint a new life. We are the canvas, the paint and the paintbrush of our life. If we don’t like the way we feel in the life already painted, it is time to pick up the paintbrush and paint a new life. We don’t need to know exactly all the details of what a new life would look like. Start somewhere. Begin with a feeling of excitement. Bring decisiveness and willingness to the canvas. The rest begins to unfold.

We can begin painting the doorway to a new and better life. A life in which we feel good. Only self can begin to imagine what feeling good would look like. If it’s unknown, guess. Pretend. Make something up. We get to paint an entire new life and do it poorly. If it turns out not looking and feeling quite as expected, we’re still holding the paintbrush and the paint. We can adjust, modify, paint over something not quite right. Of course, the choice is always available to begin again.

Set aside some time to reconnect with your heart’s dream. What has been placed on the back burner that now can be brought forward? These dreams are the ones we want for ourselves not for our spouse, not our family, not anyone else. Ours alone. When we let other people determine our definition of success, we sabotage our own future.

Dreams and desires bring excitement and life to our body. We learn how to stay focused on what is wanted, how to remain in a place of feeling good. We learn how to connect with spirit, bring spirit into the body, how to fill ourselves with power. We are here to create. To do this, dreams must have excitement and importance. They are not going to be easy to achieve, and an internal leader must be able to refocus on the vision when times get tough or obstacles are encountered.

DECISION.

Decide to achieve this. This may seem basic but many people never decide and commit fully to their dream. They simply keep “thinking” about it. Or the first obstacle appears and they give up. Make a commitment to self that this is what is wanted. Right now is not the time to worry about how to make it happen. This is the moment of developing an internal leader who will carry the vision and come back to it time after time. Honor the commitment to self. No one can let us down more than we can. Make a commitment about what is wanted and choose to honor and stand behind it 100 percent. No matter how challenging, how fearful, or overwhelming it may seem, decide you are going for it! Why? For no other reason than because you want it no should’s, have to’s, or weak choices. Decide and commit.

What do I want to have?

How will I generate daily feelings of excitement around this dream?

What am I prepared to do to maintain excitement even in the face of doubt and discouragement?

BELIEF.

Believe in the outcome of the dream. We may have no idea how to get what is wanted, but it is essential that we believe, ultimately, we will have what is wanted. We don’t need to know exactly what to do. The first steps are acknowledging the dream, being excited by the dream, developing a committed relationship with the dream and believing we are worthy of having it.

Use affirmations, pictures, positive thinking, motivational tapes, prayer, self-love, visualization and whatever it takes, to reaffirm this dream and the belief we can have what we want. Using these techniques daily is required to slowly, but surely, change thinking patterns, create new beliefs and give dreams momentum.

It’s okay to have fear. Fear often means we are headed in the right direction. The fear signals that this is something that is wanted. It’s just that we don’t know how to get what we want, so fears pop up to stop us from risking failure. Acknowledge fear as part of the journey.

VISION.

Great achievers have a habit. They “see” things. They walk around with pictures of what they are wanting to create. They already see themselves as having what they want. Everything starts out with a dream. Visualize success. See the light at the end of the tunnel before even starting. Create an inner dialog of success and allow self to already feel the feelings of achievement.

Imagine the difference between these two scenarios. The first person, Gail, walks around with a clear vision of herself having already achieved her goals. Multiple times each day, she pulls up her dream and spends time with the physical excitement of imagining a successful outcome. Each day she speaks loving words to herself, and leads herself with strength, kindness and compassion. She plays with her dream, offering it a relationship of love. When obstacles occur, she may fall flat, but at some point her internal leader remembers the vision. Her focus and attention are drawn back to feeling good combined with what is wanted.

A second person, Ben, hasn’t yet developed he ability to hold strong to a vision. The first obstacle comes along and knocks him flat on the ground. Ben stays there, accepting his defeat. His dream is buried as decides the failure is proof he can’t have what he wants. His inner dialog is self-critical. He feels frustration, anger, discouragement, disgust and the hopelessness of “What’s the point?” Both Gail and Ben are going to run into obstacles. Both will meet with disappointment, fear, failure and other obstacles. There is no avoiding them. Who is more likely to achieve their dreams, Gail or Ben?

ACTION.

Decide where you are at now, and what seems like the right place to begin. Action means starting at the right place at the right time. Action steps may mean first spending time imagining what is wanted, what a joyful life would look like. Action steps may require writing the dream, defining meaningful positive affirmations, allowing time each day to visualize the dream, adding exciting emotions to the dream, or breaking down an overwhelming change into smaller, manageable steps. It might take weeks or even months of doing these steps before we are ready to move on to the next level of action.

ENJOY THE PROCESS!

Each person has within them individual ideas of what is exciting. An exciting idea does not come from left brain logic. It comes from deep within, from center. It has no logical basis. It is an idea of creation. An exciting idea which brings more life, more energy. Perhaps our ideas lie in the creation of a flower garden, a home redecorating project, a self-initiated business or the physical embodiment of spirit. The size of the desire is irrelevant. Relevance lies within excitement. Does the idea stir up passion, bring more life, bring a twinge of awakening? Our purpose to stay true to inner desires, come back as often as possible to the excitement of carrying those dreams. We allow ourselves to intentionally feel good, right now, even as the dream is but an illusionary reverie.

Remember no one is making you do this. This is your dream for yourself. Other people may support us, and then again, they may not. Remember, it is not their dream and not their obligation to make it happen for us. We have to believe in our dream, summon the excitement for ourselves, stay true to the process of creation. Creating our dream will require much effort, emotionally, spiritually and physically, to get what is waned. Fall in love with the journey itself not just the outcome. Fall in love with yourself for having a dream.

POSITIVE NOTES

I dare to dream of a new life.

I dare to stay true to my dream.

I dare to feed excitement my dream and my body.

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Helping people let go of self-destructive thoughts, emotions, and behaviors has been the life work of Dr. Annette Colby. Her fascination with the power of the mind, emotions, spirituality, and physicality has led her to become a leader in the field of personal growth and consciousness. She is a valued counselor, and an inspiring teacher, as well as an independent writer, mentor, and guide. She is a highly sought-after trainer with a unique ability to inform and inspire individuals to open their hearts, love more openly, and pursue their dreams.

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Charisma is a quality that can enable you to accomplish almost everything you could ever want faster than you can imagine. It is a quality that all highly successful people have developed and use to their advantage in everything they do.

Charisma is an indefinable personal magnetism that can earn you the support and cooperation of people in almost everything you do. When you take the necessary steps to develop charisma, people will find themselves attracted to you and will want to help you achieve your goals.

Charisma is a personal magic of leadership that arouses loyalty and enthusiasm in other people. It is a special quality of magnetism that each person has and that each person uses to a certain degree. You have a special charisma to the people who look up to you, who respect and admire you, the members of your family, friends and coworkers. Whenever and wherever a person feels a positive emotion toward another, he or she imbues that person with charisma, or attractiveness.

People who have developed their charisma are often described as having an aura. This aura is a light that is invisible to most people, but not to everyone. This light radiates out from a person and affects the people around that person in a positive or negative way. The halo around the heads of saints and mystics in many religious paintings was the artist’s attempt to depict the light that many people reported seeing around the heads of these men and women when they were speaking, praying, or in an intense emotional state.

You also have an aura around you that most people cannot see but is there, nevertheless. This aura affects the way people react and respond to you, either positively or negatively. There is a lot that you can do, and a lot of good reasons for you to do it, to control this aura and make it work in your best interests.

If you’re a business owner, developing greater charisma can help you tremendously in working with your staff, your suppliers, your bankers, your customers, and everyone else upon whom you depend on for your success. People seem naturally drawn to those who possess charisma. They want to help and support them. When you have charisma, people will open doors for you and bring you opportunities that otherwise would not have been available to you.

In your personal relationships, the quality of charisma can make your life more joyous and happy. People will naturally want to be around you. Members of your family and friends will be far happier in your company, and you will have a greater influence on them, causing them to feel better about themselves and to do better at the important things in their lives.

There is a close association between personal charisma and success in life. Most of your success and happiness in life will come from your relationships and interactions with others. The more positively others respond to you, the easier it will be for you to get the things you want.

Charisma is based on the Law of Attraction. This law states that you inevitably attract into your life people and circumstances that harmonize with your dominant thoughts. You are a living magnet, and you are constantly radiating thought waves, like a radio radiates sound waves, that are picked up by other people. Your thoughts, intensified by your emotions, as radio waves are intensified by electrical impulses, go out from you and are picked up by anyone who is tuned into a similar wavelength. You then attract into your life people, ideas, opportunities, resources, circumstances, and anything else that is consistent with your dominant frame of mind.

Your charisma is really a measure of the power of your personality. It is determined by a variety of factors, most of which you have control over. The critical thing to remember about charisma is that it is largely based on perception. It is based on what people think about you. It is not so much reality as it is what people perceive you to be. For example, one person can create charisma in another person by speaking in glowing terms about that person to a third party. If you believe that you are about to meet an outstanding and important person, that person will then be charismatic to you.

The foundation for developing charisma is having a strong purpose. Men and women with charisma and personal magnetism almost invariably have a clear vision of who they are, of where they’re going and what they’re trying to achieve. Business leaders have a vision of what they’re trying to create and why they’re doing what they’re doing. They’re focused on accomplishing some great purpose. They’re decisive about every aspect of their lives. They know exactly what they want and what they have to do to get it. They plan their work and work their plan.

You can increase your charisma and the magnetism of your personality by setting clear goals for yourself, making plans to achieve them, and working on your plans with discipline and determination every day. The whole world seems to move aside for the person who knows exactly where he or she is going. In fact, the clearer you are about your purpose and goals, the more likely people will be to attribute other positive qualities to you. They will see you, or perceive you, as being a better and more admirable human being. And when you have clear goals, you begin attracting to yourself the people and opportunities necessary to make those goals a reality.

You must have strong self-confidence to develop charisma. Men and women with charisma have an intense belief in themselves and in what they are doing. They are usually calm, cool, and composed about themselves and their work. Your level of self-confidence is often demonstrated in your courage and your willingness to do whatever is necessary to achieve a purpose that you believe in.

People are naturally attracted to those people who exude a sense of self-confidence, those who have an unshakable belief in their ability to rise about circumstances to attain their goals.
People with strong charisma have developed expertise or competence. The more knowledgeable you are perceived to be in your field, the more charisma you will have among those who respect and admire that knowledge because of the impact it can have on their lives. This is also the power of excellence, of being recognized by others as an outstanding performer in your field. Men and women who do their jobs extremely well and who are recognized for the quality of their work are those who naturally attract the help and support of others. They have charisma.

One of the most admirable qualities of leaders, which lends a person charisma in the perception of others, is the capacity to step forward and take charge. The leader accepts complete responsibility for getting the job done, without making excuses and blaming anyone. When you take complete responsibility for yourself and your actions, you experience a tremendous sense of control and power that enhances your feeling of well-being and that generates the charisma that is so important to you in attracting the help of others.

When you set clear goals and become determined and purposeful, backing up those goals with unshakable confidence, you develop charisma. When you are enthusiastic and excited about what your are doing, when you are totally committed to achieving something worthwhile, you radiate charisma. When you take the time to study and become an expert at what you do, and then prepare thoroughly for any opportunity to use your knowledge, skill, or experience, the perception that others have of you goes up. When you take complete responsibility and accept ownership, without making excuses or blaming others, you experience a sense of control that leads to the personal power that is the foundation of charisma.

By merely looking like a winner in every respect, you will have the kind of external image that others admire, you build your charisma. When you develop your character by setting high standards and then discipline yourself to live consistent with the highest principles you know, you become the kind of person who radiates charisma to others. Finally, when you concentrate your energies on achieving the results that you have been hired to accomplish, the results that others expect of you, you develop the reputation for performance and achievement that inevitably leads to the perception of charisma.

You can develop the kind of charisma that opens doors for you by going to work on yourself, consistently and persistently, and becoming the kind of person everyone can admire and look up to. In the final analysis, that is what charisma is all about.

Copyright© 2005 by Joe Love and JLM & Associates, Inc. All rights reserved worldwide.

Joe Love draws on his 25 years of experience helping both individuals and companies build their businesses, increase profits, and achieve total success. He is the founder and CEO of JLM & Associates, a consulting and training organization, specializing in personal and business development. Through his seminars and lectures, Joe Love addresses thousands of men and women each year, including the executives and staffs of many of America’s largest corporations, on the subjects of leadership, self-esteem, goals, achievement, and success psychology.

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